Ask HN: Learning to interact correctly in online communities as a neurodivergent

I often encounter negative reactions in online communities, such as downvotes, being mistaken for a troll, and being misunderstood constantly. It also happens in person, although to a lesser extent, since I can rely on my body language and close friends to help convey my message, as they probably know me so well to infer my meaning from my, I guess, strange communication pattern. Weirdly, on the other hand, when it comes to explaining something I get complimented on how clear I make it (cue the comment "you could make a child understand quantum physics").

The negativity I face online, though, has led me to withdraw from participating in these communities, opting instead to lurk. The toll it takes on my mental health is significant, which also makes me worried about the reactions I might receive here, but I chose to post on HN because I believe it to be one of the most tolerant online communities, so I'll bite the bullet for what may well be the last time.

All in all, I'm at a crossroads and unsure of how to proceed. I've considered trying to imitate others, but I find it difficult, if not impossible. I've also attempted to use AI as a crutch, the way I "use" my friends to help me "translate" my thoughts, but that has often resulted in even more negative feedback. It has gone on and off for 15 years and I haven't made much progress. So, do you have any actionable suggestion? Thanks.